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How to Be a Good Girlfriend  
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Tags: Girlfriends, Better Girlfriend, Dating Advice, Better Dating

Now that you've found a great guy its time for you to show him how great you are too. Here is how you can be a good girlfriend.

1.	Be honest. While being honest to your mate is very important, to the point of being paramount, it is equally important that you be honest to yourself. And, yes, in a mature relationship, honesty is the best policy.
2.	Start by understanding, or at least make your best effort, that women and men are given fundamentally different roles in society. Men, like all mammal males, are perceived as very sex-oriented, much more so than women. While this doesn't mean that you should be available for your man whenever he wants you to, the same way he doesn't have to be available for you whenever you want him to, it will be helpful to discuss the topic openly and maturely with your mate.
3.	You should also remember that women are often led to be much more emotionally oriented than men. This means that many times you will be exasperated by what you perceive to be emotional indifference; however, as Hanlon's Razor reads, "never attribute to malice that which can be adequately explained by stupidity". Or at least, ignorance. Don't forget: men quite often get away with being less emotionally mature than women in the private sphere.
4.	Be consistent. What exasperates men most in a relationship is having to go back and forth between moods, and having to tolerate irrationality. Call him regularly, make time for him, kiss and hug him, grab his hand to hold it, talk to him (don't shut him out), etc.
5.	Be patient. Think of your guy as this cute little puppy dog who still has a lot of training to do. Don't automatically think he didn't hear you when he said something, maybe he was thinking, Remember, really try to be patient, things take time. Never get together with someone who is a "renovation project", though. There's a difference between helping someone adjust to living in a partnership, and trying to be their therapist and shrink. Never do the latter.
6.	Communicate regularly. Do not talk his ear off, however make sure that if you have any problems that will affect your mood, he is made aware of the reasons for your problems and mood, so that you do not appear to merely be a fickle and cranky creature.
7.	Don't forget: it's better to give than to receive. The major religions got this right, and for a good reason: mysteriously, you gain more in the long run by giving than by getting. While love isn't all you need, it's the most important thing.
8.	Let him live his life. Remember that he doesn't need you for everything and that you are seperate people as well as a couple. He doesn't need you to point out things he is doing wrong, even if you think it might help.
9.	Step back. When he needs some space don't take it personally. Give it to him and try to be patient.

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